Everybody understands 'thank you' in English, of course -- but we felt the sentiment seemed a little more genuine if we made the effort to express it in the local tongue.
Tesekkur ederim (tea-se-cur eh-de-ray) is quite tricky – tricky enough that, apparently, most tourists don't take the trouble to learn it. People in cafes and hotels, on trams and in shops stared and smiled when we thanked them in Turkish for the small services they rendered us. Several asked me if I spoke Turkish -- at which point I had to admit sheepishly that I had now exhausted my full store.
Everywhere in Istanbul the question to a wandering blonde girl is the same – where are you from? Everyone knows New Zealand: 'kiwi, kiwi, kia ora' and one man in the Grand Bazaar even ventured on 'Tena koutou, tena koutou, tena koutou katoa'. He blushed when I said 'Kei te pehea koe?' and cried 'No more Maori, no more Maori!' - but he has more Maori than I have Turkish.
Metal goods shop in the Grand Bazaar
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Blonde women exert a distinct fascination for Turkish men – where are you from, was, in my case, usually followed up by 'are you married?' and a moue of exaggerated disappointment when I nodded my head and pointed at my ring. The next question, if I was still nearby, was 'how long?'. 'Nine years – too long!' said the man who sold me my second rug of the trip (beautiful, although who knows if I paid a good or bad price – either way, I am happy with it) - 'too long, nine years eat the same kebab, get bored!'.
'Oh well,' I said, 'sometimes I have a different sauce'.*
The (cute) receptionist in the hostel asked the series of questions about nationality and wedded status, and then asked: 'how many kids?'.
'None,' I said to him.
'No! Nine years and no kids? Why?' He was genuinely shocked. 'Why?' he said again. I'm not sure my answer ('it's called contraception') was either fully understood, or truly answered this imponderable mystery for him.
Later, as we left for Kiyikoy, he claimed a broken heart, and nearly dissolved with rueful laughter when, in answer to his protestations of devotion, I handed him an empty water bottle to throw away.**
In conclusion to this story – I found Turkish men optimistic and persistent, but not unpleasantly explicit. The younger men, in particular, seemed to have better boundaries – in the few instances that we encountered them, wandering hands belonged to older men. Still, while not unmanageable, life in Istanbul was a little... edgy.
Selection of Turkish men on an Istanbul street
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Istanbul sits on the shores of two continents. From Topkapi Palace, on the European side, the Ottoman Sultans ruled their Empire. In the deeper past, Emperor Constatine moved from Rome to Byzantium (renaming it Constantinople); before even him, 'Alexander the Big' (as Mehemet charmingly translated him) crossed here from Europe into Asia.
Fireplace in Topkapi Palace
Many of the beautiful religious buildings of Istanbul have seen varied service, shifting from churches to mosques, and occasionally back the other way. In the Ayia Sophia, the splendidly rising dome has taken up Christian and Muslim prayer. It is now a museum, no longer a true place of worship.
Ayia Sophia
Across the square from this jumbled but magnificent pink and golden building, the blue mosque is more perfect and ordered, the smooth rounded bulk of its domes set off by the needling minarets. It reminded me (respectfully) of a large and very carefully constructed ice-cream sundae.
Inside, the building had a very different feel to the cool and quiet sense of past glory in the Ayia Sophia. There was new carpet on the floor and most of the area under the dome itself was roped off for the use of worshippers. At the far side of the prayer space, a group of young men was sitting listening to an older man. The building is beautiful, and tourists are lucky to see it – but it is also clearly the centre of an active and energetic community, not, like almost every church we visited, designated as a museum, or kept by a lone elderly custodian, exchanging candles for small coins.
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As I understand, Turkish politics still reflect the multiple possible identities for a country that covers two continents. On the one hand, Turkey is striving to be part of the European union. On the other, as I understand, there are growing nationalist and islamist movements, which meet and mix at some points. The press, I understand, is not as entirely free as some may wish, and it is a crime to make light of the Turiskish flag, or to speak against Turkey.
As well as the buildings and the food, the partying and the charm, the pomegranates and the nargileh, Istanbul has beggars: some young women with children on their hips; some palsied and shaking older men, their shaking bodies folded in on themselves, a hand, clawed into a a begging bowl, protruding from the knot of flesh and bone. And there are other, more picturesque signs of poverty – the men fishing from the Galanta Bridge – yes they might enjoy it, but I was told most of them are there to try and feed their families – the men carrying great loads of rubbish on their backs through the streets, stopping to shift through other piles of refuse and find what might be re-cycled or resold; the laughter from the men in the bazaar at the idea of spending all that money when I ask them if they would like to go to New Zealand.
The Lonely Planet says Turkey is growing, that Istanbul is a city of young people, coming alive and enjoying themselves, newly confident – in parts, it certainly looked like this. On the other hand, Orhan Pamuk had this to say in 2005:
Flaubert, who visited Istanbul a hundred and two years before my birth,*** was struck by the variety of life in its teeming streets; in one of his letters he predicted that in a century's time it would be the capital of the world. The reverse came true: after the Ottoman Empire collapsed, the world almost forgot that Istanbul existed. The city into which I was born was poorer, shabbier, and more isolated than it has ever been in its two-thousand-year history. For me it has always been a city of ruins and end-of-empire melancholy. I've spent my life either battling this melancholy, or (like all Istanbullus) making it my own.
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Cemberlitas and Cagaloglu: Istanbul's two most famous hamam (turkish baths). The procedure for a Turkish bath differs slightly depending on the facilities of the building.
At Cemberlitas, which OT and I visited together on her last day, you get undressed in communal locker rooms, warp yourself in a red, orange and brown woven cotton towel, slip your feet into rubber slippers and are then directed through the foyer-like 'cool room' (sogukluk) and into the 'hot room' (hararet).****
The hot room is an octagonal, domed space, with a low marble platform in the centre, little set-back washing niches and stone basins at waist height around the walls. The temperature is enough to bring an instant sweat out over the body, but not enough to stifle the breath.
We lay on the heated marble platform. After a time, one of the olive-skinned, loose-fleshed women came to wash us: first a thorough rub with a rough mitt, then an all over soaping, then we were taken to one of the basins (our attendant holding our arm to prevent us slipping), and rinsed, and our hair washed. Then back to the platform for a body-rub. Finally, into the deep hot pool and then out of the hot room for a western-style 'oil massage'.
Afterwards we were as limp as sleepy kittens.
Cagaloglu, where I went by myself on the evening of my last day in Istanbul, was perhaps even more beautiful, with traditional wooden clogs, a private dressing room with a little bed for relaxing on and after the bath, an open fire to sit beside and drink apple tea.
At Cagaloglu, my attendant sang in Turkish as she soaped and rubbed me: low, sweet, undulating, and totally foreign.
And so home... this blog is now closed for business.
* This rug seller, and then his older brother, both complimented me on my eyes... This is a theme in rug sellers, starting with Theo in Athens. Although this time I did have my sunglasses in my bag rather than on, so there was a least the theoretical possibility they were actually responding to my eyes, as opposed to spinning a line... which, surely not?!
** We came back to the hostel two nights later and I bought him a pack of Marlboro Lights to make up for my callous behavior. I think he thought he did alright out of the deal.
*** Pamuk was born in 1952.
**** There is a tricky etiquette issue, which is not clear from any signs or instructions – whether to keep your underpants on under the towel or not. In Cemberlitas this seemed to be the done thing; in Cagaloglu, full nudity was the order of the day.





































